1. Second-Guessing Your Instincts
Did you know that you think is a treacherous colleague? Or you can humble you that a girlfriend? So, let us a lot of time other than you : your colleagues are cunning, and your friends humility. Plain and simple. Sometimes the face value of a good and valuable. As is true when people can have knee-jerk reaction, women tend to do what it has done too much when it comes to serious consideration.

Is that why you manipulated her mother might use chalk to write the attitude of your workers is not credible by his decision or to blame your friend’s tone, but, first of all do not look for your own feelings? That is what the people doing that when we provide information about your dilemma with a simple point of view we try to take your side when you. If you have done the same, is good.

2. Assuming We Know What You Want Us to Do
One of the reasons men can be squeamish about women’s emotions is because they often belie the exact opposite feeling. For example: If you have plans for the day, please don’t tell us to enjoy ourselves at home if you really want us to address items 1 through 5 on the honey-do list. It’s more than a little irksome to have you return, hug us, look around the house, and then say with that pinched smile, “Did you have a nice, relaxing day?”

3. Smothering Instead of Mothering
Women can confuse these two impulses––knowing the difference is crucial. One elicits gratitude in men; the other, orneriness. Like when we’re sick. Mothering is a source of comfort that understands our flu is a temporary flaw in an otherwise heroic, virile and even studly constitution. Smothering, on the other hand, calls all of that into question. Smothering says we’re 5-year-old boys who have no idea how to take care of ourselves. And that bugs us more than the bug in us. One way to differentiate between the two: Ask yourself if you’re making a gesture to ease our suffering or to show how much we should appreciate you. The first is genuine; the second is manipulative.

4. Having a Superiority Complex
We’re not sure if you’re aware of this, but there appears to be an increasing trend among women to equate being male with being dumb. For instance, when we’re at a dinner party and you recount a story about us that ends with this punch line: “Well, you know [insert name of your dim husband here], he was just being a typical man.” Sure, every guy has his off moments––even blunders worth lampooning––but making us the hapless straight man in an ongoing comedy routine is disrespectful. And we think you’d hate it if we did the same to you.

5. Over-Sharing
We’re aware of the stereotype that says men never open up about their feelings. Thing is, sometimes opening up to you also means opening up to your sister, your mother or even your college roommate. Men value loyalty and confidentiality. Keeping the things we share between us––and only us––builds trust and will encourage even more communication. A win-win situation for everyone.

6. Not Really Listening to Us
Along those lines, many women believe that their interior lives deserve a singular spotlight and an endless theatrical run. And the fact that many men go along with this shouldn’t be construed as a license to spill. Our emotional lives are often as turbulent as yours, but whenever we talk about the tough stuff, we measure the changes in your face or shifts in your intonation to gauge when you start to judge us. It may be cowardly, but men will stop talking rather than risk a woman’s passive or outright wrath. So, by taking a backseat and letting your guy unburden himself—even if the subject is controversial or delivered in halting fashion—you create space for a more candid, and therefore truer, intimacy.

7. RSVPing for Us
Any man can relate to this moment: You’re on your way home from work, imagining the weekend ahead…the relaxation, the freedom. Then you arrive home, only to learn that you have plans. Magical plans, it seems, since they appeared out of nowhere. OK, not nowhere exactly—they were conceived with the stroke of the wifely wand that says “You’re in too, bub!” Here’s the deal: If you’re determined to make plans that include your husband or boyfriend, ask him first. And be prepared to hear that he might be too tired or would prefer to have a quiet weekend. Honoring his preferences from time to time will not go unnoticed.

8. Fast-forwarding to the Future
Women enjoy imagining the future. The story as it will be as opposed to the story that is right now. That can be a wonderful, romantic quality. It can also be an irritating, annoying quality. Having dinner together this Valentine’s Day is beautiful enough without scripting the Valentine’s Day we’ll have when we’re both 75. Enjoying the new sofa that we just bought is great without having to obsess over all of the other things that we “need” to make the living room look complete. Living in the moment provides its own vitality, which is more than enough to sustain our future together.

9. Overlooking Our Quiet Acts of Thoughtfulness
We know it’s disappointing that we men aren’t great at expressing ourselves verbally. (And we’re working on that.) But in the same vein, we’re disappointed that you can’t seem to acknowledge the nonverbal acts of caring that we perform. Like changing the oil in your car, for example, or staying up late to make sure you arrived home safely from your business trip. Chivalry also falls into this category. The art of being a gentleman doesn’t have to mean the end of feminism. Paying for dinner, holding the door open, standing up when you walk into a room…these are all gestures that demonstrate our awareness of others. Our awareness of you, specifically. While courtesy isn’t the sum total of love, it’s often how we show our feelings day to day. Women shouldn’t be so quick to rebuff that.

10. Devaluing Our Friendships
Friendship of a person’s career, there was once considered to form. More older people are an example to help develop character, but allow us to provide peer comrades to abandon love and have adopted standards of masculinity, and are our most authentic self is a poet, outdoors person or two. When the value of women’s groups, was praise for women, men are often equivalent defamation, and that is because women feel that friendship between men, that there are differences with their romantic relationship. 2 should not be with each other is – Exclusive news – and encourage rather than discourage our time with our folks welcome change.

source article : Brendan Tapley – Woman’sDay

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You Say: “Your family hates me.”
He Hears: “Your family is crazy, and it’s your fault they don’t like me.”

“Women like to talk about relationships, but men think in terms of fixing problems,” says Terri Orbuch, author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great. When a complaint includes words like “you” or “your,” your husband’s sense of hearing that you want to attack his help. To do to understand your goals, while tapping into the problem when his love. “Try saying, I’d like to be closer to your family. What should I do?’” suggests Orbuch.

You Say: “I think you need a new job.”
He Hears: “You’re a loser. I wish I married someone who makes more money.”

“Men’s self-worth is attached to the image they’re trying to portray,” says Doug Hirschhorn, author of 8 Ways to Great: Peak Performance on the Job and in Your Life. “Judging your husband’s choice of employment threatens his manhood.” Guys like teamwork; if he’s not earning what he deserves, show him it’s up to both of you to change the situation so he doesn’t feel like a failure. Tell him, “I don’t think you’re getting paid what you’re worth. Let’s work together to search for other jobs that’ll pay you more.” Or, if your circumstances allow, offer to pick up extra work so he can take classes to make himself more marketable.

You Say: “I wish you’d spend more time with the kids.”
He Hears: “You’re a bad father.”

Your husband may not feel totally comfortable being with the kids because you criticize his parenting skills, says Orbuch. Men like when you seek their opinions; it boosts their confidence. Tell your husband, “The kids love being with you. Let’s think of some activities for you to do with them.” Once you’re on the same page about safety and discipline, don’t judge him on the rest of his child care, and he’ll hang out with the kids more often.

You Say: “I have to do all the housework.”
He Hears: “You’re a lazy slob.”

“Men aren’t good at empathy,” says Orbuch. “They’re not going to say, ‘You’re right; you’re overworked.’” Also, you may not realize that your husband is handling some household tasks—often traditionally masculine ones—such as getting your car’s oil changed and taking out the garbage. Recognizing his contributions will motivate him to keep helping out. Say, “I really appreciated you cleaning the garage last week. Can we make a list of chores and split it up?” He’ll get the chance to show you everything he does while clearly seeing everything you do. Once he takes on more work, let him do the tasks his way if you want his continued cooperation.

You Say: “You go out with your friends more often than you go out with me.”
He Hears: “You prefer being with your friends over me.”

Your husband may think you don’t appreciate the time he spends with you (even if it’s usually at home or running errands around town). Plus, the activities he’s probably doing with his friends, like watching a football game or playing cards, aren’t ones he believes you’d do with him. To get through to him, Hirschhorn suggests starting with, “I respect that you need your guy time, but I get a little jealous when you’re out having fun without me.” Then, continue with a possible solution: “I’d like just the two of us to go out more often. Should I make dinner reservations for Friday or Saturday night?” Let him know that you’d also be up for doing his favorite going-out activities that he usually reserves for his buddies.

You Say: “You never tell me anything.”
He Hears: “Our relationship is in trouble—and you’re to blame.”

“Women tend to group problems together, but men like to do one thing at a time,” says Orbuch. A general statement won’t encourage a dialogue with your husband, so bring up one particular problem to get him talking. Try saying, “It seems like you’re stressed about work. I’d really like to hear what specifically is bothering you.” That’ll prove to him you want to help with whatever’s troubling him.

You Say: “You don’t appreciate me.”
He Hears: “You don’t love me.”

“Women want affirmations through words, but men show their appreciation through actions,” says Orbuch. You each may be missing the other expressing gratitude! Rephrase your feelings in terms he can understand, such as: “Sometimes I need recognition for the effort I put into our home and our family. I know I forget to acknowledge all the things you do for us. How can we show each other more appreciation?”

You Say: “You never hang out with my friends.”
He Hears: “You don’t care about what’s important to me.”

Orbuch warns, “Using a word like ‘never’ can stop a discussion in its tracks,” and suggests changing the focus from what your husband’s doing wrong to why you’d both benefit from him spending time with your friends: He gets to see another side of you and you get to share with your friends how great your husband is. Approach the topic by starting with a compliment: “I’m always raving about you to my friends. They want to see how wonderful you are for themselves! I’d love it if you’d hang out with us soon.”

You Say: “You’re always at work.”
He Hears: “You care more about your job than you do about me.”

“Your husband already knows you’re not happy if he’s at work more than at home,” says Hirschhorn. Instead of making him feel guiltier about it, let him know exactly how his absence affects you and offer a compromise so he can be with you and still get his work done. Try saying, “Work must be crazy for you lately, but I could use your help with the kids and I miss having dinner with you. Do you think you can leave the office sooner rather than later this week? If you’re swamped, maybe you could come home and help with dinner, and then do work while I get the kids ready for bed.”

source article : Meredith Bodgas – Woman’sDay

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You see, the truth isn’t always the best option. Our self-easily bruise (like our nipples, but that’s when talking about her previous time, for each a whole other article), so women should receive a careful approach. Here’s what a man do not like to hear, and together with the recommendation on what to say.

1. Don’t say : “Everyone loved him.”
A guy likes to think he is the best man you’ve ever dated and that he’s the favorite of all the important people in your life: siblings, friends, and especially your parents. When your new guy finds out that everybody loved the old boyfriend, his confidence wanes. It’s bad enough that his girlfriend has certain expectations. Now, living up to the group’s expectations might be a tall order.

What to say instead : “They liked him but didn’t know the real person.”
It will make gatherings with friends and family easier if your guy is blissfully unaware that everyone in the room might be wishing the old boyfriend was still in the picture. (”He was so good at Pictionary!”) Let the new guy know that while the ex was loved by all, that was only because they saw one side of him, not the person you were around. Even if the new guy isn’t Mr. Popular with Dad and e-mail buddies with your best friend, you’re the only one who really has to like him. He will get better at Pictionary too. He has been practicing his animal shapes.

2. Don’t say : “He made good money.”
Did the old boyfriend make a ton of money? Keep that info to yourself. If the new guy finds out he makes less money than what you’re used to, he will feel incompetent. Men like to feel that they can provide everything for their women, from the sexual to the store-bought.

What to say instead : “Salary isn’t that important as long as you do what you love.”
Let’s hope this is actually how you feel. But seriously, a guy can feel insecure if he decides he will never make enough dough to buy all the things both of you want in life. Just remind him that it doesn’t matter how much we make, just that we are happy. Also remind him that he doesn’t have to spend every dime he makes on making you happy. He can make you happy spending money on himself. He can start by buying some clothes for going out that don’t involve his favorite sports team.

3. Don’t say : “He broke my heart.”
Relationships end. More often than not, they don’t end smoothly. While this admission of past heartbreak at the hands of the ex might sound like a reassurance for the current relationship, it actually means something completely different in the mind of the average male. Even if the ex was a jerk, and you never want to be with him again, the fact that you are still dwelling on the past or carrying baggage makes it seem that in some odd way you still think about the ex. He doesn’t want to know you think about the ex for any reason.

What to say instead : “We’ve all been hurt.”
Even if the ex ripped your heart out, don’t make it seem like you are hung up on it. You are with a great guy now, and that’s all that matters. He might have experienced the same in a previous relationship, but do you want to hear all about how some woman scorned him and he is still licking his wounds? Let the past live in the past.

4. Don’t say : “He is doing great.”
Some couples keep in touch after breaking up. There’s usually nothing wrong with that, as long as it remains on a platonic level. The ex and the current boyfriend have probably never met, so is it really necessary to let him know what’s happening in the old boyfriend’s life? Your current flame doesn’t really care about your ex’s pregnant sister, or his upcoming audition for Top Chef. He is just asking, “Have you talked to your ex lately?” to find out how much you two stay in touch.

What to say instead : “I haven’t heard from him in awhile, but I’m sure he is fine.”
Even if you e-mail constantly or talk once a week, it’s best just to let the current boyfriend think that you don’t really keep in touch with the ex. He doesn’t let you know about his past relationships and how awesome those women are doing. (And they are doing awesome, so don’t ask.) Don’t give updates about the ex to the current boyfriend. He honestly doesn’t care, and it will only lead to arguments or an official boycott of Top Chef.

5. Don’t say : “He brought me here once.”
Neither of you is naive. Both of you led a life before love thrust you into each other’s arms. But when it comes to doing things as a couple, it’s best to pretend you’ve never been anywhere. Ever. You spent the previous few years locked in your apartment living life through a view finder you found in your parents’ basement. (”Hey look, the Grand Canyon!”) Every experience is new and something that you and the current boyfriend are sharing for the first time together.

What to say instead : “I’ve been here before, but I can’t recall when.”
This doesn’t mean lie. If he asks if you’ve ever been to a certain restaurant or seen a certain show, say that you have but can’t recall with whom and for what reason or occasion. If he keeps pushing the issue, you can then mention it may have been with an ex. He will drop the subject and the destination idea because he won’t want to take you there anymore. It’s fine: You wouldn’t have liked SeaWorld the second time anyway.

6. Don’t say : “He bought me this.”
Guys have trained themselves to say something complimentary about your personal appearance, whether it’s a nice pair of earrings or a sparkling necklace. If you say that the old fling bought it for you, it’s another way of saying, “Every time I put it on, he comes to mind.” Men would like to think that you never, ever think of the ex under any circumstances. Especially not when standing half-naked in front of a mirror, getting dressed.

What to say instead : “I’ve had this for years.”
Oh, this old thing? You have no idea where it came from, but you’ve had it forever and just love it. Pretend it’s just a piece of personal property and not a reminder of a life with someone else. Mention that you’ve actually been thinking about buying yourself a new one — and who knows, you may get it as a gift in the near future. Avoiding an argument and new jewelry? Double score.

7. Don’t say : “He and I planned to…”
Every past couple had plans they wanted to accomplish together: drive across the country, see a baseball game in every major league ballpark, agree just once on how to decorate the apartment. But when a relationship ends, so do the joint dreams. Don’t make your previous couple plans a part of your future plans with your current boyfriend.

What to say instead : “You know what I’ve always wanted to do?”
Make it about the both of you and don’t ever mention any old plans with the ex. This is a different relationship, with different goals and agendas. Sure, you can bring some ideas over from the old to the new relationship — kind of like rollover minutes in a cell plan — but just don’t mention it’s something you wanted to do with the ex but never had the chance.

8. Don’t say : “He was funny.”
Guys love to make women laugh, especially because every woman on the planet is looking for a mate with a “sense of humor.” Since we aren’t all funny, pickings will be slim. But every guy thinks he is a riot. Even if the ex was pee-your-panties hysterical, the new guy doesn’t want to know he would only be the opening act if they were in the same room.

What to say instead : “You are the funniest guy I’ve ever met.”
He is the funniest guy you’ve ever met. Repeat that line until it soaks in or you start believing it as gospel truth. Sure, this might be a lie, but you might not be the best cook/ best dressed/ smartest woman he has ever dated. He just knows better than to tell you the truth. A little white relationship lie never hurt anyone.

9. Don’t say : “He got into fights.”
No guy wants to imagine that your ex may someday come back to fight for you and quite literally be ready to roll up his sleeves. They also don’t want to feel like they have to engage in confrontations every time a guy smiles at you in a public setting. Most men like that their woman is a head-turner but aren’t really keen on punching the chin of that head when it turns back around.

What to say instead : “I like a guy who can protect me, but not look for a fight.”
Let your man know that while you appreciate a protective nature in a partner, you don’t appreciate it when a guy starts a fight just because another man smiled or started a conversation in a bar. It was a fault of the ex that you had issue with, so he will probably be careful to be on his best behavior. Men know when other men are crossing the line. Men also know when a lady can handle a situation for herself.

10. Don’t say : “He was good/bad at sex.”
Ah, sex. The topical minefield of any relationship. One wrong step or word and BOOM! You are alone again and man-less. You would think guys would want to hear all about how terrible the ex was in bed. Well, we don’t. Why? Because if he was so terrible, and you stuck with him for so long, then we could be terrible and you’d never say a word. We also don’t want to hear anything sexual about your ex because the next time you are in the middle of the doing the sweaty belly bump, the story will cross his mind. And obviously, if he was a sexual dynamo, don’t breathe a word.

What to say instead : “There were good and bad times in the bedroom.”
It’s sexual response to Switzerland. Total neutral. Ironically, it’s may be the truth. Pornography and Matthew McConaughey in the film is just a wonderful time of 100%. He knows this is the truth, because he was more than really great sex and materials to have more of his fair share, so bad he thought he was a hidden camera show. In any case, it’s the best in all the circumstances of the to avoid sexual topics with other partners. Fill out the form unless it is involved in health care. Then you should start asking a ton of questions.

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source article : Chris Illuminati

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For some, being single can make them uncomfortable. Here are eight reasons to enjoy your single status or even revel in the fact that you aren’t sailed up now.

1. Your diet is your diet. You can eat what you want and grub down precisely when you feel hungry. You should not expect your man to come home from work. You can also watch the movies you want. It is a real plus for me. I observe Rom-Coms lame several times.

2. You can do errands without the dead weight. I once had a roommate complain that she just wanted someone with whom to run errands on the weekends. I also had a boyfriend who begged me to stick around and watch while he cleaned his closet. Personally, I get antsy when I think I’m boring someone else. Also, I shop, run errands, and do chores much faster without a second voice chiming in.

3. You will really get to know yourself. Okay. What does this mean, getting to know one’s self? I’m going to take a stab at this. If you’re someone who writes in a journal, you probably write down a lot of plot (e.g. “He called while I was in the shower”). But every once in a while, you’ll add a little commentary (e.g. “Why do I shower so much?” or “I wish I hadn’t overreacted. My bad.”). Maybe you’ll read old entries and discover a pattern in your behavior. Now, some people, when they are upset or stressed, will go mop the floor and re-varnish the table and won’t be able to recognize stress if it bites them in the face.

I, on the other hand, let the floor get dirty while I reflect — Erin, why are you feeling this way? Some might say that’s more productive than mopping. Self-reflection makes you aware of how you think, move, react, and how it affects others. If you know yourself, you’ll probably be less crazy when you have a boyfriend and argue with him — you’ll understand your feelings and hopefully articulate yourself like a master journalist. This will make you a better partner.

4. You can be a good aunt. Since my friends have become new moms, I’ve been able to spend time with their babies. Hopefully the next generation will appreciate how cool/crazy Auntie E is.

5. You can develop talents and take up hobbies. I have had the time to learn Italian, take surfing lessons, run a half-marathon, and go to ballet class. I’d also like to take up sewing and cooking (for real — cooking. I’m considering it).

6. You actually get out of the house. It’s hard to motivate for a party when you’re sitting on the couch in your sweats, cuddling with your BF. It might also be hard to get him to care about your friends. Or vice versa. But being single makes your social life less complicated in a way. You’re more open-minded about going out.

7. You can travel. Now’s the time to explore. You may not have the freedom later. Call up a friend and start packing!

8. Loneliness hurts less. Feeling lonely when you’re in a relationship is much worse than feeling lonely when you’re single. And yes, married people do feel lonely at times (e.g. when he’s taking you for granted or going into his man cave).

Now. Turn off the TV. Spend some time with the person you’ve known the longest (yes, you). You should want to get to know this person. You should like him or her, otherwise who else will? (But don’t love yourself so much that people can’t stand you, ha.. ha…)

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He Teases You
Rewind to the grade school. Are you type has never given a kick in the shins or pulled your ponytail on the playground? Well, when a boy loves a girl, he often acts as a shock to show just how much. And unfortunately, some guys never become too big for these antics basic. Rally Joel*, 22 “The first time I went out with Sara, I kept making fun of his glasses,” he said. “I wasn’t trying to be average. I just wanted a reaction from her.” The caterer? If a guy the bomb, he can take. So, give it to him. Give him good.

He Brags About Himself
If a man laundry-lists his finer points, it’s usually a desperate ploy to win your favor, not a sign his ego requires its own zip code. Men are insecure and often go overboard in an attempt to seem desirable. Prime example? Tom, 28: “I met a girl at a party and immediately blurted out that I spent $4,000 on a new couch,” he says. “I was nervous. I wanted her to think I was successful, but I ended up looking like a tool.” Hot tip: Button up a braggart with a quick compliment such as, “Wow, you must be doing really well.” With any luck, the strategic stroke will help ease him on to a more interesting topic … like you, of course.

He Asks About an Ex
When a guy probes into your past, he’s actually saying, “I hope I have a future with you.” Allow Seth, 30, to explain: “If I can see myself getting serious with a chick, I’ll question her about the last guy she dated,” he says. “I want to be certain I’m not some sucker she’s rebounding with.” So, what to say when pressed about a former flame? Just give enough info to let him know your heart is in the clear — no boyfriend baggage here.

He Turns Down a Date
Ladies, you’re not only playing hard to get. An intriguing stud can pass up a tempting proposition to appear slightly unavailable and hopefully much more attractive. Take it from Jake, 25 “This new girl I was seeing e-mailed me at work and asked if I was free for dinner,” he said. “Although I am dying to see her, I found and told that I had plans. I didn’t want to come across as pathetic.” Now that you know a reluctant Romeo’s secret MO, indulge his game of cat and mouse. Say something like freshly, “OK, maybe another time,” and give him clearance to sue you.

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1. Dream Up a Hot Vacation
Get out of your rut of cold-time fantasizing about a sexy European flight with your type. While the two of you sip coffee and share the Sunday paper, take a detour to the Travel section. Enter your guy’s attention by reading a description of some irresistible totally romantic place (the charming old towns, a lush green countryside, the magnificent sunsets and delicious local dishes should attract attention quickly enough). Then start to invent your own final escape together.

2. Be Spontaneous About Your Dinner Dates
Excited to go out to eat but can’t pick a place? Start by making a list of some restaurants in your town — include a few you know you like and several that you want to try. Then write the name of each on the back of a scrap of paper, fold it in half, and drop it into an empty bowl. From now on, instead of going back and forth about where to eat on a Friday or Saturday night, just draw a name from the bowl and embrace the surprise.

3. Create Mood Music
Sunday nights can leave you and your man with a sinking feeling about the upcoming workweek. But why ruin those last hours of freedom when they could be romantic? Here’s what to do: Create a couple’s play list of good-time tunes that you can crank up anytime to change the vibe from sullen to sexy. Each of you contributes your favorite upbeat songs; call it your Sunday mix. Every few weeks, delete the ones you’re sick of and add some new hits.

4. Plan Two Hot Dates with Him
Instead of orchestrating a perfect evening you’ll both love, make a deal that you’ll do whatever he wants one night as long as he does the same for you the other night. Even if he plans an u?ber–guyfriendly date (you know, Beirut at the sports bar followed by Texas BBQ), it’s all good. Just think, you’ll finally get him to take you to that cute new café you’ve been eyeing, and afterward you can curl up and watch season one of True Blood on DVD.

5. Have a Sexy Sleepover
Sometime this week, e-mail your guy, and tell him to reserve Friday night but not to worry about coming up with a date idea — you’ll plan everything. Then, before he shows up, turn your place into a low-key bed-and-breakfast with fresh linens on the bed, the ingredients for his drink of choice, and a season of his favorite TV show on DVD. Once he arrives, order delivery for dinner, and get in “do not disturb” mode by turning off your cell phones. We trust you know the rest.

6. Partake in an Intimate Picnic
Eat outside Parisian-style in the park with your guy on the next nice weekend afternoon. Buy some Brie, chèvre, or mimolette (a tasty, hard French cheese), fruit, a baguette, and Georges Duboeuf Beaujolais (a delicious French wine that comes in cute mini four-packs — the perfect picnic size). Glam up the meal by bringing wineglasses and china plates. Then spread out a blanket on the grass and take turns feeding each other, while you soak up the sunshine.

7. Treat Him to a Rubdown
In the middle of the day, shoot your guy the following text: “Hot date tonight. 8 pm sharp.” When he shows up, dim the lights, put on some chill tunes, and ask him to lie face down on your couch or bed (oh, and the shirt’s gotta come off). Once he’s in relax mode, give him a nice, long back rub with massage oil. (Tip: Guys tend to prefer earthy scented oils, like pine and eucalyptus, rather than rosy ones). This special treatment will remind him that he’s one heck of a lucky guy to have you.

8. Take a Steamy Bath Together
Showering solo is so 9 to 5. When you have a lazy weekend morning, take advantage of it. While he’s still in bed, run the water, light a few candles for atmosphere, and cue up a chill play list from your iPod. Then wake him up with a gentle kiss, lure him into the bathroom, and use a sweet-smelling scrub to rub each other down.

9. Plan an All-Out Date on the Town
Make your next date night extra-special for no reason in particular. Dress up in your sexiest cocktail attire, ask him to don a suit, and head off on a romantic rendezvous. Check out a wine tasting in your area (localwineevents.com has a listing by city), then splurge on a fancy meal or a decadent dessert at a nice restaurant.

10. Bond Over Cooking Together
Preparing a meal together can really help you connect. Start by finding an easy but special recipe, and forget the usual routine of who-does-what in the kitchen. All that time spent chopping and simmering is conducive to catching up after a chaotic workweek.

11. Play a Passionate Game
Challenge your man to a retro board game — think Life or Trouble — or a round of bowling or mini golf and it’ll light a spark between you two. Getting competitive eliminates weekday stress, encourages flirting, and builds sexual fervor. Hint: Make a bet that the loser has to give the winner a full-body massage.

12. Take Him on a “Boy’s Night Out”
Treat your friend or husband to that’s date all about him. The text is Friday morning and tell him to leave the night open. Select then up the work, and beat it away at a burger joint where you can dig into the red meat together and enjoy a few beers. Remember it with tickets to a basketball game or a movie he’s dying to see.

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Boiled down, the types have four principal wants reports that are sometimes sated by the tiniest of movements by you. Here, experts explain with examples so you can put these insights to use when your guy is on the brink.

1. The Desire to Protect
Believe it or not, the so-called stoic sex is hardwired to consolidate. Protecting you from evil makes him feel studly, which makes him feel good. “Not that you should act helpless, but letting him see your vulnerable side that will take him more closely because he opens his instincts to take care of you,” says David Givens, Ph.D., author of Love Signals.

Give him the chance and take the load, and thank him after he does. When a guy associates you feel like Superman, of course he’ll want to pair up. These little things can extract his hero side.

Give him a job. Ask him to fix or build you something. Performing concrete tasks is a way of bonding that enhances his sense of success.

Ask his opinion. Whether it’s about your 401(k) options or the best travel sites, it telegraphs that you value his brain as much as you do his brawn.

Wear soft materials. Delicate textures like rayon, silk, and fur trigger an intense response in men. These fabrics accentuate your softer, feminine nature, which heightens his amorous instincts.

Don his clothes. It shows that you’ve chosen him over other guys — sexy.

2. The Desire for Freedom
Even emotionally healthy men want assurance that their identities will stay put after they’ve become half a happy couple. “By making it clear that you don’t expect your guy to change, he’ll feel like you truly understand him but don’t threaten his sense of self,” says Dan Neuharth, Ph.D., author of Secrets You Keep from Yourself. “That leaves him feeling on sturdy enough ground to commit.” The following moves let him know you’re no ball and chain.

Blow him off. Men hate the idea of being tied down socially, so turn down occasional plans. He’ll not only feel easier — and open up more — around you, but he’ll also start to wonder what you’re doing and pursue you more.

Share your own fears. Guys often hold back because they think most chicks are baby-hungry ring-hunters. So if you feel nervous about committing, let him know. He’ll be reassured that you’re navigating new waters too, not trying to trap him.

Reinvent yourself. Little changes in your appearance now and then — say, hair up in a ponytail one day, down the next, etc. — remind him that you’ve got zillions of facets to your personality too. Read: no rut risks.

Respect his privacy. A physical space that’s totally his is a huge symbol of independence to a man. Signal that you respect that by, say, staying out of desk drawers and not peeking at his caller ID when his phone rings.

3. The Desire to Shine
Maybe he’s cocky, but he’s still insecure. Trust us, guys need to know that they’re respected and appreciated. “When being around you increases a guy’s esteem, both internally and in the eyes of others, he’ll naturally want to be attached to you,” says Dr. Dobransky. Here, things that show your high value and nudge him toward love.

Make him happier. Laugh when one of you loses balance in the bedroom. Go to stupid movies. Drag him out when he’s crabby. If you can keep things light, even during stressful times, you’ll become indispensable.

Be a social butterfly. Guys are good at left-brain stuff, like sales and sports, but can get awkward when it comes to social graces. Take the lead and charm the people you meet and he’ll be extra grateful to have you. But he may take credit for making those new friends … whatever.

Play mind games. Activities that require mental prowess — like Scrabble, puzzles, and chess — can prod his passion. It sounds nuts, but proof of your problem-solving abilities subconsciously shows him you’re a desirable choice for carrying on his genes.

Act like the grand prize. Seeing you through other people’s eyes reminds him how special you are. Invite him to an event where you’ll excel (whether it’s karaoke or a fun run), or have him stand between you and another man you think is getting too close at a bar.

4. The Desire for Comfort
“Falling in love is a process of developing attachment, which happens when oxytocin floods the brain,” says Alan Hirsch, M.D., neurological director of the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation. You can unleash those love hormones by making him feel like you two just “fit.” When he’s so comfortable with you that he stops thinking about your relationship and simply enjoys it, he’ll find himself nudged into love territory. Take these tips.

Let him see you primp. Grooming in front of him enhances intimacy because it’s something other guys don’t get to witness. Just keep it goddesslike (applying lipstick or powder), not gross (bleaching your moustache).

Cook together. Being around food spikes oxytocin levels in males. The more often you prep dinner à deux, the more he’ll associate you with the good feelings he gets from eating it.

Stock your pad. When buying groceries you don’t have a preference on, get a brand he uses. He’ll subconsciously feel at home at your place. Sleep with him. Catnap near him or let yourself doze off in his arms so he sees you in your most trusting, completely relaxed state.

What Yanks Him Back from the Brink
Some factors can derail a guy who’s about to fall.

1. They Get a New Opportunity
A promotion often means spending more hours at work or taking a schedule-chewing class. Instead of balancing that with their love lives, guys tend to prioritize their careers and believe that a solid relationship will endure the delay. So if something big is brewing, he may hold himself back.

2. You Never Fight
Sure, types hate talk, but it’s worse if you don’t react negatively at all when he’s screwed up. A guy that molest (a) you’re go whipping out later, (b) you’re on a mat, or (c) you’re not into him enough to care. Any of this will encourage it to rethink your budding report.

3. Pure Panic
Many men worry that if they commit, they’ll have to give something – to friends, dart night, something. So when a guy realizes he’s fallen for you, it can freak out and set aside for a moment. If you can survive his conduct large baby without reacting in a way that confirms those fears, he should break out of it.

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Not Too Wet, Not Too Dry…
As with any kiss, which is essential moisture. Not enough and if the bullets with a cotton ball. Too much and well, lets just say too much is too much. To mid-kiss (especially more than once) to stop and wipe away your mouth, you need the settings on your slobber reject button. Now a nice deep kiss a little wet, it can be nice, but … you get the point.

You WILL Need Your Tongue Back…
Using your tongue is the nature of a French kiss. That is actually part of the definition. There is a proper way and a not so proper way to use it. I am not talking about a mechanical – do this 50% of the time and that way the other half.

Such the only interest and goodness, don’t just stop your tongue in the mouth if full of other people while you think, He can give me a French kiss or what? “Or what exactly correct. Granted a French kiss is all about using your tongue, just remember that you’re trying not to lick their almonds.

Kissing should be something that is more natural and not something you should have to constantly think ‘am I doing this right?’ If you are kissing the right person and there is a chemistry between the two of you, you will definitely know.

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• The basic signs that your friend cheating on you include him and says he loves you and how much you mean to him and that he would enjoy being with you more than anyone. He would no more reason why he fell in love with you and what you like about it.

• More physical signs would be his not showing you the affection that he used to, whether it is holding hands or cuddling up together or kissing. Worse would be if you found any indication of him having being intimate with anyone else, such as smelling unfamiliar perfume or cologne on his clothing or finding strange personal objects on such as a handkerchief or lipstick. Check his car for signs as well.

• A major sign that should strike you as obvious is if your boyfriend no longer shows interest in calling you on the telephone or via text message as much as he used to, or simply is avoiding you, then he is probably on the prowl for someone else. Your best bet is to simply come right out and ask him what his intentions are or are not. If you confront him honestly and press him for the truth, then you should get the answer that you need so you can act on it.

• The second main character is when he begins working for apologies or late-breaking dating with you, especially at the last moment. Worse would be if you find out that he had made alternative arrangements with someone else assumed. This is obvious to me all the signs that your friend cheating on you.

• The final main character would have bad attitude towards you. He may begin to show resentment and to treat you without respect or esteem, maybe even bordering on becoming angry or violent. At this point, it would be wise for you to the end of the relationship to discuss if this behavior has become the norm.

Nothing good can come from a relationship as bordering on animosity or hostility. Do something!

If you know the others signs, share with us at comments area please…

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